I don't usually publish long pieces from others, but Nancy Michaels is a friend of mine who nearly died over the past year, and she's written this piece with permission to use it in Balancing Act. I've saved it to begin the new year, for obvious reasons.
I've often mentioned in past speeches I've delivered on Perfecting Your Pitch, or How to Grow Your Business, the print that hangs in my office that is the Chinese symbol for crisis. Comprised of two characters: one represents danger, the other represents opportunity. So often in life, it's a challenge to see the opportunity in the midst of a catastrophe.
In May 2005, I was stricken by a virus that attacked my organs. Within one week of entering the hospital, I had received a new liver from a 21-year-old donor in Tennessee who tragically died in an automobile accident on May 21, 2005 one evening before my transplant surgery.
Because I was blessed with a healthy life, I was caught completely off-guard by the events that would redefine my life and my priorities.
I'd like to share with each of you, my Top 10 List only this time, it's not about sales and marketing issues it's about the practical matters we all need to address in our lives as responsible adults.
Please feel free to share this with a friend. If one person can benefit from this advice, I'll be grateful, once again.
- Be medically insured.
Thankfully, we had just changed our health insurance provider mere months before liver failure dealt its near fatal blow. After three months at Beth Israel Deaconess Hospital's Intensive Care Unit, five weeks' stay at Spaulding Rehab, and eight subsequent return visits to BI for 2-11 nights at a stretch, my medical bills I'm sure are in the millions I have had to pay a minute fraction of these bills.
- Retain a health care proxy.
Who do you want making medical decisions for you if you are unable? Fortunately, I was conscious when I arrived at the hospital and was able to sign my parents on as my health care proxy. Otherwise, my estranged husband would have had been the one in charge of making medical decisions on my behalf. Whether you agree or disagree with the findings of the Terry Schrivo case, one thing is for sure you want to be certain the right person is making life and death decisions on your behalf. If you don't currently have a health care proxy, or question who yours is, ask someone to take on this important role.
- Write a living will.
If you're unable to utilize the services of an attorney, head on over to Office Depot and purchase a standard will. Write down your desires, make copies of it and give it to one or two loved ones and keep the original in a safe deposit box.
- Purchase long-term health care and disability insurance.
This is something I didn't have, but wish I did. I was unable to care for myself after being discharged from BI in October of last year. In April of this year, I went out on my own again and have made slow and steady improvement ever since. Having that f inancial cushion of insurance coverage would have eased the stress in my life significantly.
- Surround yourself with a great team of people.
Fortunately, I have the most incredible family two parents, three brothers and their wives that anyone could wish for. I count several others who surrounded me with their warmth, compassion, love and companionship during my darkest hours as true friends. Those who didn't reach out, I now know were probably never my friends. I've been saddened by their response to me in my most dire time of need, however, am very grateful to know who my true friends are and always have been.
- Surround yourself with a great professional team of people.
How lucky was I to be living in one of the world's health care epicenters Boston.
My surgeons, physicians and nurses saved my life on more than one occasion. I had a great attorney who helped me get what I needed from my hospital bed in terms of financial support from my husband. I have an amazing financial planner (and friend) who promises me when I regain my financial earning power, will help me plan for the long-haul. My CPA is on call for court appointments, tax filing situations and overall financial advice.
- Make your good health a priority.
In the habit of making sure everyone else in your life is healthy? Arranging doctor's appointments, making healthy meals and snacks? Maybe it's time for you to add your name to ever-mounting to-do list. If you are ill for any length of time that is unusual, request your primary care physician run lab work.
Had this been done when I continued to visit my doctor prior to being diagnosed with liver failure, we might have caught this in time.
- Please sign up at the Registry of Motor Vehicles to be an organ donor.
We all hope and pray to live long and healthy lives. In the event that you leave this earth too soon, share your organs so that so many others may live. I've always been an organ donor, never thinking I'd be in serious need of receiving one, but proud that I was willing to donate my organs to help others, when in the end, I was the fortunate recipient of such a profound gift.
- Live a compassionate and thoughtful life.
Had I not lived, I don't think I would have had numerous regrets in my life. I've tried to always be fair and kind to others. I love my children, family and friends and have attempted to share myself with them as often as I could. I also loved the work I did and the opportunity I had to earn a living doing what I loved. I did not resent the work I did, but I would have spent more time with my children and more time alone.
- Live life today.
Just as I began to feel better, I wrote down 10 things I wanted to do in the next year. Slowly, but surely, I'm making my way through the list. The Fox television piece was one of my goals, in order to get the word out about how to prepare for the unexpected. I'm booking my hotel in Park City, Utah, this week so I can attend the Sundance Film Festival in January something I've always wanted to do, but never made it onto my calendar. I'm traveling with two girlfriends during the week of Thanksgiving. One friend was by my side almost daily at the hospital. The other, flew in for a day to see me when she first learned I was in a coma, and flew back to California the next day. I'm also planning a trip to Disney with my kids next year a place we've never gone despite my endless trips to Del Ray Beach, FL, for my wonderfully loyal client, Office Depot. (Office Depot is truly an amazing company that honored our agreement for me to produce their Web Cafι series bedside. Thanks so much to Monica Luechtefeld at Office Depot, and my amazing Assistant, Brittany Albright, for keeping the balls up in the air during my absence).
Thank you for the opportunity to share my story with you. I hope you'll never be in need of such thoughtful planning, however, the peace of mind you'll achieve by making your physical, mental and financial well-being a priority will be rewarding enough.
nmichaels@impressionimpact.com